Lisa Marie Presley was no stranger to grief. Practically 5 months earlier than her personal dying — whereas marking the passing of her son, Benjamin Keough, who died in 2020 — she wrote an essay on the subject and the way it “detonated and destroyed” her household life.
Presley, the one little one of rock legend Elvis Presley and Priscilla Presley, died Thursday after struggling a cardiac arrest at house earlier that day. The 54-year-old “Shine” singer had most lately been seen Tuesday on the eightieth Golden Globe Awards, the place she was available to rejoice Austin Butler’s greatest actor win for his titular function in Baz Luhrmann‘s movie “Elvis.”
But Presley made no secret of the losses she experienced in her lifetime, starting with Elvis Presley’s 1977 dying and devastatingly together with that of her son, who died of a self-inflicted gunshot wound. She was married 4 occasions, with every partnership ending in divorce.
Her remaining Instagram put up, shared final August, pointed her 628,000 followers to an emotional essay that she wrote for Individuals to mark Nationwide Grief Consciousness Day.
Within the August 2022 essay, Presley famous that she needed to cope with dying, grief and loss since she was 9 years outdated, when her father died.
(She was staying at Graceland in 1977 — her mother and father had divorced 4 years earlier — and would recall Elvis kissing her goodnight hours earlier than he died, the Related Press reported. The subsequent day, the subsequent time she noticed him, he was mendacity face down within the rest room. In 2003, she instructed Rolling Stone that she “had a feeling” earlier than her father’s dying and was “obsessed with death at a very early age.”)
In her essay, she opened up about her life after the tragic lack of her son, whom she stated “was so much like his grandfather on so many levels that it actually scared me.” She additionally detailed how she saved going for the sake of her three daughters — actor Riley Keough and younger teen twins Finley and Harper Lockwood — in an effort to console those that have skilled comparable life-altering occasions.
“It’s a real choice to keep going, one that I have to make every single day and one that is constantly challenging to say the least. … But I keep going for my girls. I keep going because my son made it very clear in his final moments that taking care of his little sisters and looking out for them were on the forefront of his concerns and his mind. He absolutely adored them and they him,” Presley wrote. “My and my three daughters’ lives as we knew it were completely detonated and destroyed by his death. We live in this every. Single. Day.”
She wrote that since she has “been living in the horrific reality of [grief’s] unrelenting grips” after her son’s dying, she needed to share a couple of issues to concentrate on in regard to grief, directed at anybody who was in serving to a grieving individual. She famous that grief will not be a snug or common topic to debate.
“Death is part of life whether we like it or not — and so is grieving. There is so much to learn and understand on the subject, but here’s what I know so far: One is that grief does not stop or go away in any sense, a year, or years after the loss. Grief is something you will have to carry with you for the rest of your life, in spite of what certain people or our culture wants us to believe. You do not ‘get over it,’ you do not ‘move on,’ period,” she wrote.
She additionally talked about that “grief is incredibly lonely,” noting the “cold hard truth” that even those that present up for you proper after the loss “soon disappear and go on with their own lives and they kind of expect for you to do the same, especially after some time has passed.”
She inspired those that know somebody who’s grieving to “call them to see how they are doing. Go visit them. They will really really appreciate it, more than you know.”
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Her third level targeted on “premature, unnatural, or tragic” deaths: “You will become a pariah in a sense,” she wrote. “You can feel stigmatized and perhaps judged in some way as to why the tragic loss took place. This becomes magnetized by a million if you are the parent of a child who passed. No matter how old they were. No matter the circumstances.”
Presley stated she beat herself up “tirelessly and chronically” and blamed herself on daily basis following Benjamin Keough’s dying. It was exhausting to stay with that, she stated.
“[O]thers will judge and blame you too, even secretly or behind your back which is even more cruel and painful on top of everything else,” she wrote, highlighting the significance of discovering others who’ve skilled comparable loss and in search of out help teams. Presley shared that she went to help teams and hosted them for bereaved mother and father at her house.
“Nothing, absolutely NOTHING takes away the pain, but finding support can sometimes help you feel a little bit less alone,” she added.
The Instagram put up previous the one about her essay showcased the matching Celtic eternity knot tattoos she and her son received one Mom’s Day to represent that they’d “be connected eternally.”
Her different latest posts praised the “Elvis” biopic, notably the way it appeared to provide her a quick reprieve from her grief, and chronicled her involvement in its promotion.
“I have seen Baz Luhrmann’s movie ‘Elvis’ twice now, and let me tell you that it is nothing short of spectacular. Absolutely exquisite. Austin Butler channeled and embodied my father’s heart and soul beautifully. In my humble opinion, his performance is unprecedented and FINALLY done accurately and respectfully,” she wrote in Might. “You can feel and witness Baz’s pure love, care, and respect for my father throughout this beautiful film, and it is finally something that myself and my children and their children can be proud of forever.”
Presley is survived by her mom, Priscilla, and her three daughters. In an announcement Thursday, the household stated they have been “shocked and devastated” by Lisa Marie’s dying, and “profoundly grateful” for everybody’s love, prayers and help.
Presley, who helped oversee her well-known father’s property and pursued a music profession of her personal, was married to Benjamin and Riley’s father, Danny Keough, for about six years earlier than they divorced in 1994. She had been staying at Danny Keough’s home after leaving her personal within the wake of Benjamin’s dying, and her ex carried out CPR on her Thursday earlier than paramedics arrived.
She was additionally briefly married to late King of Pop Michael Jackson and likewise to actor Nicolas Cage. When Jackson died, she wrote on Myspace that he had talked about her father’s dying and stated, “I am afraid that I am going to end up like him, the way he did.” She known as Jackson’s dying her “biggest failure to date.”
Presley shared her twin daughters with musician Michael Lockwood, whom she was married to from 2006 till 2021, 5 years after she filed for divorce.